Not in a Big Love kind of way. In a I-now-pronounce-you-man-and-wife kind of way.
Until now, we've had a lot of good luck with securing the folks that are going to play important roles in our day. Originally, we had hoped that my cousin would be willing to get ordained online to perform the ceremony. While he is very supportive of our relationship, he didn't feel that he was the appropriate person to do the honors. So we are now trying to find a stranger.
I'm not gonna lie... I'm pretty bummed that some random person will be our officiant. We aren't religious, so we don't have a pastor to ask. I'm not sure asking a friend at this point would feel right. I've looked extensively online and only found 2 people in Laughlin that may perform non-denominational weddings. To say that I'm nervous is an understatement. The ceremony will be less than 10 minutes, but it will be the most important 10 minutes of my life. And since we live 9 hours from our ceremony site, we won't have a lot of time to really get to know this person.
So, I kind of saw this coming, but I am still sad. I'm sure it will be perfectly fine. But I'm not sure "fine" will be enough for the person pronouncing us husband and wife. *sigh*
Are/were you married by a stranger? What did you do to better acquaint yourselves before the big day? Was it awkward? Any do's and don't's that you can share?
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
They don't always say "yes."
The last week has been full of all kinds of twists and turns. Things with Mr. D and I are fine. I'm actually back home from my seemingly-endless work trip, so things are already looking up (However, I haven't actually unpacked. Anything.). We still haven't heard about our offer on Savannah, and my heart skips a beat everytime I get an email alert.
But things are not so great with some other important folks in our lives: Mr. D's bro, FBIL C and his girlfriend, Ms. CY. You see, they have been together for 6 years. They have been living together for about 4 years and have a dog together. Mr. CD proposed to Ms. CY on their 6th anniversary, while ice skating (cute, right?). Well, things get hazy from there.
The news I got was that he presented her with her promise ring, and he was going to take her ring shopping so she could pick out exactly what she wanted. She said yes. We sent them congratulatory text messages and I offered to help her plan her big day.
Out of respect for FBIL C and Ms. CY, I will skip the details. Suffice it to say, they are not planning a wedding. Ms. CY isn't sure that she wants to spend the rest of her life with FBIL C. He is wondering why on earth she had a ring as her desktop pic and frequently brought up marriage over the last few months.
Their situation reminds me of the relationship I was in before I met Mr. D. I'll call him XBF. XBF and I dated for 7 years. We talked about getting married for a few years before I found out that he had a girlfriend for the last 9 months of our relationship (YUCK). We were young when we met, and after spending that much time together, it was just sort of expected that we would get married. I never asked myself if we should get married. (Did I mention I was young?) Like Ms. Snapdragon (shout out!), I feel like learning of his infidelity was the best thing that could have happened to me. It saved me from making a gigantic mistake.
I feel like FBIL C and Ms. CY have also avoided making a mistake. I know it will hurt, but I'm really proud of them for being honest with themselves before dates were set, deposits were paid and vows were repeated.
So, in the end Ms. CY said no. I don't have any experience in this area, so I wonder... does this happen often? Especially after years of togetherness? Have you ever said no?
But things are not so great with some other important folks in our lives: Mr. D's bro, FBIL C and his girlfriend, Ms. CY. You see, they have been together for 6 years. They have been living together for about 4 years and have a dog together. Mr. CD proposed to Ms. CY on their 6th anniversary, while ice skating (cute, right?). Well, things get hazy from there.
The news I got was that he presented her with her promise ring, and he was going to take her ring shopping so she could pick out exactly what she wanted. She said yes. We sent them congratulatory text messages and I offered to help her plan her big day.
Out of respect for FBIL C and Ms. CY, I will skip the details. Suffice it to say, they are not planning a wedding. Ms. CY isn't sure that she wants to spend the rest of her life with FBIL C. He is wondering why on earth she had a ring as her desktop pic and frequently brought up marriage over the last few months.
Their situation reminds me of the relationship I was in before I met Mr. D. I'll call him XBF. XBF and I dated for 7 years. We talked about getting married for a few years before I found out that he had a girlfriend for the last 9 months of our relationship (YUCK). We were young when we met, and after spending that much time together, it was just sort of expected that we would get married. I never asked myself if we should get married. (Did I mention I was young?) Like Ms. Snapdragon (shout out!), I feel like learning of his infidelity was the best thing that could have happened to me. It saved me from making a gigantic mistake.
I feel like FBIL C and Ms. CY have also avoided making a mistake. I know it will hurt, but I'm really proud of them for being honest with themselves before dates were set, deposits were paid and vows were repeated.
So, in the end Ms. CY said no. I don't have any experience in this area, so I wonder... does this happen often? Especially after years of togetherness? Have you ever said no?
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